Hello #BossTribe, it’s been awhile, but we’ve been undergoing some major changes here at The B is for Boss. We are working on bringing more digital content to our platform this year, along with some other IRL networking opportunities both locally in NYC and internationally.
(spoiler alert: check back at 3pm CST today when we unlock our destination and sign ups for our 2019 Summer Retreat.)
In addition to revamping the site, I’ve also done some major rework and revamps in my personal and professional life. Which leads me back to my first big announcement….*drum roll please*
Last month, I left my job and went back to my previous one. Yup, that’s right. I “boomeranged” and it was the best decision I could have made.
I am now co-leading the Digital Sports Group at Taylor PR.
I wanted to let a month pass, before screaming it from the rooftops, but I know now thirty days in, that without a doubt I made the best decision. This past month, I’ve been happier than I have been in over a year. If you recall I wrote a post about how leaving your dream job is never easy. And boy, was that an understatement. Without getting into all the dirty details, in short: I made a mistake. A huge one. I left a job I loved for what I perceived was a better opportunity. However, I didn’t take the time to ensure my values were aligned with the new team I would be joining. I soon realized that I didn’t connect with my manager or my team and they didn’t care enough about me or my career growth in a way that suited my needs. Additionally their culture wasn’t progressive and as a minority woman in the Sports industry, I realized quickly that there were glass ceilings not even my best six inch heels could shatter.
Because we spend the majority of our days at work, it’s important to keep in mind that if a workplace is toxic, it will most definitely trickle into your personal life. Unfortunately for me, not only did it trickle into my personal life, it affected my health and it also trickled into my business. It was very hard to run a career platform, while being so unhappy in my own career and that bothered me. I felt like I was letting so many women down when I couldn’t show up as my best self, because my own job was so draining. But through this experience, I learned a valuable lesson:
“Go where you are loved and you’ll do your best work.”
No job is perfect. There’s always going to be challenges. Whether it is office gossip, politics or competition. However, if at the core you feel loved and the environment is positive, you will do your best work.
I recently read a Marie Claire feature of Lupita Nyong’o, and she put it this way:
“You must always go where you’re loved, because I deeply believe in the principle that the perceiver affects the perceived. So if the person’s perceiving you with love, you’re more likely to do a better job.”
She then goes on to say: “Have you ever experienced this thing where you feel you’re with someone who thinks you’re stupid, and then you start to do really stupid things? Or someone who thinks you’re clumsy, and then all of a sudden you become clumsy?”
You’re probably shaking your head like yes, I know exactly what she’s talking about.
Well, it’s true. When you’re in toxic environments, you can’t show up as your best self. Whether it’s your career, a relationship, or friendship, if the person on the receiving end or in this case the perceiver doesn’t care about you or respect you, it will in turn affect how you show up. Why dim your light for a job or people who don’t deserve your shine anyways?
Be around people who value what is valuable about you.
Be around people who support you.
Be around people that love you.
I could have ran from one bad job to the next, but I decided to go back to a place where I was loved. No matter what people may have thought about my decision. In fact, I know there were several people who had something to say about my decision (many of which are probably reading and screenshotting this now).
However, at the end of the day, I made the decision that was best for my mental and physical health and my happiness.
Don’t run away from a job or opportunity, just to end up in another situation you’ll want to run away from months later. Run towards something.