Inspiration

Go Where You're Loved...You Will Do Your Best Work

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Hello #BossTribe, it’s been awhile, but we’ve been undergoing some major changes here at The B is for Boss. We are working on bringing more digital content to our platform this year, along with some other IRL networking opportunities both locally in NYC and internationally.

(spoiler alert: check back at 3pm CST today when we unlock our destination and sign ups for our 2019 Summer Retreat.)

In addition to revamping the site, I’ve also done some major rework and revamps in my personal and professional life. Which leads me back to my first big announcement….*drum roll please*

Last month, I left my job and went back to my previous one. Yup, that’s right. I “boomeranged” and it was the best decision I could have made.

I am now co-leading the Digital Sports Group at Taylor PR.

I wanted to let a month pass, before screaming it from the rooftops, but I know now thirty days in, that without a doubt I made the best decision. This past month, I’ve been happier than I have been in over a year. If you recall I wrote a post about how leaving your dream job is never easy. And boy, was that an understatement. Without getting into all the dirty details, in short: I made a mistake. A huge one. I left a job I loved for what I perceived was a better opportunity. However, I didn’t take the time to ensure my values were aligned with the new team I would be joining. I soon realized that I didn’t connect with my manager or my team and they didn’t care enough about me or my career growth in a way that suited my needs. Additionally their culture wasn’t progressive and as a minority woman in the Sports industry, I realized quickly that there were glass ceilings not even my best six inch heels could shatter.

Because we spend the majority of our days at work, it’s important to keep in mind that if a workplace is toxic, it will most definitely trickle into your personal life. Unfortunately for me, not only did it trickle into my personal life, it affected my health and it also trickled into my business. It was very hard to run a career platform, while being so unhappy in my own career and that bothered me. I felt like I was letting so many women down when I couldn’t show up as my best self, because my own job was so draining. But through this experience, I learned a valuable lesson:

“Go where you are loved and you’ll do your best work.”

No job is perfect. There’s always going to be challenges. Whether it is office gossip, politics or competition. However, if at the core you feel loved and the environment is positive, you will do your best work.

I recently read a Marie Claire feature of Lupita Nyong’o, and she put it this way:

“You must always go where you’re loved, because I deeply believe in the principle that the perceiver affects the perceived. So if the person’s perceiving you with love, you’re more likely to do a better job.”

She then goes on to say: “Have you ever experienced this thing where you feel you’re with someone who thinks you’re stupid, and then you start to do really stupid things? Or someone who thinks you’re clumsy, and then all of a sudden you become clumsy?”

You’re probably shaking your head like yes, I know exactly what she’s talking about.

Well, it’s true. When you’re in toxic environments, you can’t show up as your best self. Whether it’s your career, a relationship, or friendship, if the person on the receiving end or in this case the perceiver doesn’t care about you or respect you, it will in turn affect how you show up. Why dim your light for a job or people who don’t deserve your shine anyways?

Be around people who value what is valuable about you.

Be around people who support you.

Be around people that love you.

I could have ran from one bad job to the next, but I decided to go back to a place where I was loved. No matter what people may have thought about my decision. In fact, I know there were several people who had something to say about my decision (many of which are probably reading and screenshotting this now).

However, at the end of the day, I made the decision that was best for my mental and physical health and my happiness.

Don’t run away from a job or opportunity, just to end up in another situation you’ll want to run away from months later. Run towards something.

I did.

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BOSS 101: Interview with Karinn Chavarria

In honor of Women's History Month,  we're continuing #BOSS101 interviews every Wednesday throughout the month of March, with some bad@$$ women that are redefining the "B" word. I'm honored to continue this month off with a high school friend, Karinn, who I feel like I've witnessed blossom into this Food and Fitness Boss Lady in such a short time. It's crazy, because social media has allowed me the opportunity to keep in touch with people I may have never had the opportunity otherwise -- Karinn is definitely one of those, since I haven't seen her in over a decade; but I get to stay up to date on all her fun shenanigans via her blogging and social platforms. From Karinn's insta stories to her candid and honest posts, she's definitely someone you should be following for motivation, gymspiration, and a good laugh. Her blog and brand @feedthecurves is definitely on the rise and I'm so glad I was able to catch up with her as she offered up some boss tips on how to lean into your passions, hustle everyday, and live as your most authentic self.

Tell us a little about yourself…

My name is Karinn, I'm from Houston, TX and I'm on a mission to inspire women, minorities like myself and entrepreneurs to do what they love. I consider myself to be a hustler. I've been called that many times and I'm coming to terms with being able to say that myself. But what do I do exactly? For starters, I run a blog and brand called Feed the Curves. I'm also the co-founder of the fitness movement #FindYourSweat. I wear many hats from developing recipes for my blog to  restaurant marketing. I also curate and host events and work with companies for social media content!

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Tell us more about your blog/brand FeedTheCurves & FindYourSweat

Feed the Curves is all about celebrating your body by feeding it what it needs from the inside out. I've been overweight to emaciated and the last thing I'd want someone to do when embarking on a lifestyle change is to feel deprived or lost. So, I found a solution-- to advocate a mindful balance between food, fitness and a social life.  I'm a proponent of moderation and keeping it real so you'll find me posting a healthy meal one day then enjoying tasty libations at the newest restaurant the next.

I recently worked with Whole Foods for #VeganViernes, my weekly dose of vegan recipes, which was a highlight of 2018 so far. I'm not a vegan but I find there to be a disparity of education on the subject amongst blacks and hispanics. You can find me blog about ALL things food/fitness/and social events related on Instagram @feedthecurves. Be on the lookout for my website relaunch!

Find Your Sweat originally started as a hashtag and challenge to encourage women to find a workout that they truly enjoy and inspire them to fall in love or back in love with being active. My partner Cori and I completed 30 consecutive workouts in 30 days to showcase the variety of ways to get active in Houston. We tried everything from jiu-jitsu to samba (Brazilian dance) to boxing then posted about it on our social media channels. We quickly garnered media exposure and the response was far more than we expected and very humbling. We made a commitment to ourselves and to each other and found solace and unity when things got tough. We didn't want FYS to end after the challenge. We wanted women to experience the same camaraderie we did when you work together and not against each other. From that, the idea of hosting empowering events through fitness was born. We now host events in Houston and plan on taking it further! You can find more about our story here and subscribe to our newsletter for upcoming events here!

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Give us a little background on who Karinn is and what aspects of your early adulthood guided you to where you are now.

I'm multi-faceted and very complex to say the least. I've dabbled in so many things and experienced a lot in order to realize my potential and purpose. In college, I worked for a start-up gold trading business located inside of a grocery store. I also worked as a brand ambassador for numerous marketing agencies and events. Working both simultaneously equipped me with knowledge of running a small business, people skills and passion for production. The gold trade proved to be lucrative and soon everyone was buying and selling so the company expanded from 1 store to over 100 in a matter of a couple of years. I was there to see this company grow from conception so I fell even more in love with business. I loved it until they went corporate and I had to follow rules like a dress code haha. I received my degree in Journalism and Global Business but upon graduation my life took a different turn. Instead of pursuing journalism, I moved on a whim to Denver start my own business. At 23, I registered my first LLC and opened my first brick and mortar store in Colorado. Having my own business was great but I was pursuing a trade that my heart wasn't in. I thought that I'd be fulfilled monetarily but I hated it. I promised to never go into something that I'm not wholeheartedly willing to lose sleep for. I moved back to Houston and that's when the soul searching and going back to the drawing board began.

What inspired you to pursue a job outside of the traditional 9-5?

Because of my free-spirited nature I always knew that I didn't belong in one place but in many and I also don't do well with authority, so I knew I had to be my own boss from the beginning. But when I moved back to the H from Denver, I felt experience and tenure was lacking on resume. It was so frustrating getting back into the job market and receiving denials. That's when I really started hating the corporate world. I worked with temp agencies and couldn't find a job that suited my search for creativity and culture. I knew I was capable of anything and nobody would give me a chance. After each rejection, I thought to myself, "Like, y'all have never met me. I'm badass and can do that job just as good as the next person and probably better."

That's when I landed an Account Executive position with the Houston Press. I worked in digital and print sales with mostly restaurants and bars. This position gifted me more insight into business and events so I loved it but I also hated being a slave to the clock. When I got laid off, that added more fuel to the fire. I felt like a number, so I started thinking how I could turn my passions into a profession. I used my work experience from college and the short stint at the press to reinvent my life and say no-more to the traditional 9-5.

What is the craziest thing you've ever done to get a lunch/calendar meeting with someone?

I needed to find the owner of a bar and he was not reachable via phone. So I decided to become a bar fly and just hang out for a week until he showed up lol. I became a regular.

How important is networking and relationships when it comes to your brand/business?

You've probably heard that your network is your net worth which I can attest to. Networking is so important to your business because it gives you access to a pool of opportunity and can help you form incredible relationships. Relationships and how you nurture them are just as important. I believe having a good reputation will set you apart so be the person that you'd want to work with or for when shaking hands.

What’s one piece of advice you have for women that want to pursue a career outside of the traditional 9-5?

Be passionate about your idea and believe in yourself. The three P's of success are Passion, Persistence, and Patience.

What inspires you?

My mother's valiant and beautiful story of being an immigrant and achieving the American Dream. She moved to the U.S. from another country to live a better life. She had two children and my father left us when we were toddlers. She'd scrub toilets in order to ensure food was on the table. She built her own janitorial business. Wanting to leave that laborious industry, she sought out new opportunities. She then became the Director of Operations for a multi-million dollar company THEN opened up her own business. My mom is a self-made boss and didn't even have the resources that we have now (or know English!). She is my hero and everything I could have asked for when God blessed me with a mother. She is the reason I'm inspired by women and minorities.

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What Challenges have you faced as a woman in your field? Specifically, what challenges have you faced as a minority woman? -- if any?

I haven't personally experienced gender-bias in the blogging field because it is comprised of mostly women. However, this "crowded" space of female influencers can tend to be competitive. I hate to say it, but you'll meet some inauthentic people along the way who only have their best interest in mind. I don't view this as a big challenge though, I view it as unfortunate human nature and personality disorders hahaha.  

When trying to build your brand and expand your outreach, what components do you find most valuable?

I'd say figuring out your niche is highly valuable. You have to target the right audience to create content that connects and receive reciprocation. Without knowing these things, getting traction and engagement will be difficult. Once you have a niche, people view you as an expert in that field so you naturally gain a loyal readership/following. When you do attain this, asking for feedback from time to time is a good idea (ie. what would you like to see more of, how can I improve, how was your experience etc.).

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When we embark on a journey of building any sort of business, we imagine it going a particular way. How do you deal with inevitable disappointments?

Inevitable disappointments should be a part of the business plan. If you painted a pretty picture of your business and how it's supposed to be, let me be the first to tell you that you're in for a rude awakening. What you do with mistakes and disappointments is learn from them. Use them to strengthen your character and be constructive not destructive. Your setbacks and how you overcome them is what makes your journey that much sweeter and better. With the faith of a mustard seed and the strength of a bull, there's nothing that can stop you.

What Quote do you live by?

“A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once." - William Shakespeare

Not the most conventional or modern quote but indeed one of my all time favorites about courage and nobility. A coward has died so many times from not taking risks or standing up for what they believe in, thus dying inside numerous times before their actual death. The courageous only experience death once because they face the challenges and calamities that life throws at them.

What tips do you have for others working to be noticed by brands/partners?

Being authentic and yourself is what can set you apart. You can find me cussing, twerking, then I'm interviewing a restaurant owner. I never felt the need to be cookie cutter because it's not who I am. I'd like to think that brands like authenticity.

How do you redefine the B Word/What’s your Boss Word?

Bold- Bold are those who take risks and get to where they need to be regardless of circumstance. Be bold in your word, your presence, your conviction. I believe that bold women rule the world.

Any parting words for the #BossTribe?

Don't compare yourself to someone else and don't give yourself excuses. Excuses and comparisons has killed many dreams. I know it can be daunting to take a risk but face your fear and do it anyways, pave your own road of success. You're never too old or too late in the game so start now! As I like to say, one persons chapter 27 is another's first page.

 

BOSS 101: Interview with Maya Allen

In honor of Women's History Month,  I'm bringing back #BOSS101 interviews every Wednesday throughout the month of March, with some women that are redefining the "B" word. I'm so excited to kick this month off with this gem, that I met last year at a mutual friend's birthday party. I was instantly in love with her personality (and bomb highlighter). She is creating waves in the beauty industry and truly redefining the "B" word when it comes to beauty, branding and a being boss. You have probably read one of articles or seen one of her viral videos on the likes of Cosmpolitan or Byrdie. When we met, my blog hadn't launched but I knew then, when it did I definitely wanted to feature her. I'm so glad I was able to catch up with her as she offered up some boss tips... get your pen and paper ladies! Maya took us to school with this interview. Class is in session!

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Tell us a little about yourself…

I’m Maya. I’m originally from Portland Oregon and a proud Howard University alumna where I majored in journalism. I’ve always been inspired by the power of words and using storytelling as a way to uplift humanity, particularly women. I truly believe in radiating self-love and spreading positivity. The world needs more love so I put forth that philosophy first in everything I do.

Give us a little background on who Maya Allen is and what aspects of your early adulthood guided you to where you are now.

I’m constantly evolving. But being a dreamer has always been a constant in my life. I truly believe I was destined to become a writer. I was born with an undeniable connection to words. Growing up, I collected every issue of American Girl, Seventeen, and Teen Vogue magazine. My adolescent eyes would be entranced by the covers of my mother’s monthly subscriptions to Jet, Ebony, and ESSENCE magazine. The stories I read inside of these slick, glossy pages greatly contributed to my womanhood. I also collected journals and writing became a very personal and therapeutic hobby for me at a young age. And it still is today. I always yearned to see more women who looked like me in the magazines I felt so deeply connected to. This propelled me to pursue a career in editorial. Now as a beauty editor,  I use my voice and platform to tell the stories I needed to read as a young woman. In the cultural climate of today’s society, I take my responsibility to spread representation in mainstream media as an honor. It’s what keeps me going.

Tell us more about your job at Byrdie and what the transition from Cosmopolitan has been like.

At Byrdie, I work on a team of the most talented editors creating fresh, forward-thinking content for the beauty-obsessed woman. I cover beauty, health, and wellness. The transition from Cosmopolitan.com has been amazing, because I’m still in the digital editorial space learning new ways to tell stories that will resonate with our readers. I’m fully immersed in the beauty world covering well-reported features, interviewing celebrities, and beauty experts. It’s been so fulfilling to see my writing transform overtime.  

Speaking of Cosmopolitan, you were making waves there, creating a true lane for women of color before you decided to go. Why the switch?

I wouldn’t trade my time at Cosmopolitan.com for the world. It was my first “big girl” job in the industry and my experience was incredibly valuable. There, I learned how to think visually and package my feature stories on a bigger level. It was the most ideal start to my journey of becoming an exceptional editor, storyteller, and most importantly a hard worker who knows how to think strategically and critically in today’s digital age. My former bosses and team members at Cosmo have become mentors and close friends. I’m always seeking new challenges and ways to professionally stretch myself while building my digital repertoire. I’ve been an avid reader of Byrdie since its inception a few years ago. Learning how to cater my writing and editorial skills to a more niche, beauty-obsessed audience of smart women intrigued me to make the jump. It’s been an amazing experience thus far.

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I had a similar situation, where I left a dream job for another job and people couldn't believe it. But I knew in my heart it was right. What piece of advice do you have for women who stay in jobs/CAREERS because of the influence of others?

I was so taken back by the overwhelming amount of responses I received after I made the announcement that I’d be starting a new job. I knew that I’d successfully tapped into a new demographic at Cosmo, which built a lot of my loyal readers who follow my work. But I had no idea that so many people I didn’t know were so personally invested in my career. To be honest, I didn’t know how to handle the overwhelming amount of Instagram DMs, text messages, calls, and emails that flooded my inbox inquiring about my transition and my next step. Some people’s unsolicited advice about my choice to evolve professionally were negative. And this feedback was coming from people I didn’t even know. I had to take a step back, center myself, and realign my thoughts away from all of the noise. I’m naturally an extrovert, but when it comes to my dreams I’m an extreme  introvert and selective about who I share them with. This was a decision I made for myself and I knew that it’d serve me well and the millions of potential readers I was doing it for. My advice is to live life on your own terms. A strong sense of self will elevate you higher and higher. You’re the author of your own story so write it however the hell you want.

You have had a couple videos/photos go viral. What's your secret?

It’s so exciting working in digital media because I’m staying submerged in all corners of the internet every single day. I’m a beauty girl at heart, so I always know what’s having a moment. It’s not only about knowing the latest trends, but becoming an expert on how people like to digest and consume content. In terms of video and photo-heavy features, I credit lots of my viral content to being on the pulse of beauty. But I like to package things differently in ways that haven’t been done before. I always think to myself: how can I elevate this concept and tell this story visually in a new, authentic, and innovative way? I stay abreast of up-and-coming hairstylists, makeup artists, and influencers that haven’t been discovered yet. I’m constantly seeking inspiration and I use my sharp visual aesthetic with my editorial eye to create relatable content that speaks to all women.

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What inspired you to work in your industry?

Growing up, I never felt included in the conversation in mainstream media. I grew up in a predominately white environment and was always the token black girl. Outside of my immediate family, I didn’t see the celebration of black beauty anywhere. Our rich culture, skin tones, hair textures, body shapes were excluded. You could barely find us on the covers of magazines, on advertisements, or on big screens. I wanted to change that. I wanted to use my infinite love of words to inspire women who don’t deserve to be an afterthought.  It’s so fulfilling to work in beauty and create concepts that celebrate and empower women of color. There’s truly no greater feeling.

How important is networking and relationships when it comes to your brand/business?

Good relationships are one of the core values of success. I wouldn’t be where I am today without my mentors who’ve been there for me through every step of my professional journey. There’s a big difference between organic and forced relationships, though. Since the beginning of my intern days over six years ago, I’ve made it a point to be kind to every single person I come in contact with—from the Editor-In-Chief down to the messenger who delivers packages all day and the janitors who are at the office with me late at night when I’m still working. I’ve made it a priority to build authentic relationships and friendships with people in the industry because it’s important. I’ve cultivated those relationships because you never know where that person will end up or how that relationship can professionally propel you further. My former bosses while I was interning have turned into close colleagues and friends of mine. However, people make the mistake of strategically building relationships with only themselves in mind. I can’t stress enough that it’s not only about you. I wish I could show some of the messages I’ve recieved that simply state: Hi, I know you don’t know me but how can you help me? When approaching someone for professional advice you have to come correct. Do you read their work? Or do you just follow them on Instagram and think they’re cool? Those are two very separate things. I’m a strong believer that all relationships need to be reciprocal. My mentors teach me things and I learn from my mentees, it’s a constant exchange of knowledge, which comes from experience, and I value that. My “brand” (I use that word loosely because I feel like it’s used too fluidly nowadays) is not about me—I do everything to be of service to other women. When you realize that the core of your career is bigger than you, you’ll excel. You’ll naturally want to connect and collaborate with dope people and do dope shit. It truly takes a village.

What’s one piece of advice you have for women that want to work at A magazine?

You better get ready to work, girl. And I truly mean you need to be willing to put in the work. Lots of women reach out to me and tell me they want to work for magazines but nine times out of ten they have such a glamorous perspective of the industry—it’s not 100% glam. Actually, if we’re being honest, most of my career has been a combination of sleepless nights and early mornings at the office. With that being said, enter in the industry for the right reasons. Interning is so incredibly valuable. Take your internships seriously because they can turn into your job. Be the first one at your office and the last one to leave. Build a good rapport and solid trust with your editors so they allow you to take on responsibilities beyond the traditional “intern” role. To do that, act as if you’re an integral member of the team and allow your work to show for it. Pay attention to detail, go above and beyond, know when to speak up and when to be a sponge on the wall and soak up your experience. Understand that to write well, you must practice the craft daily with the intention to improve.

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What Challenges do you face as a woman in your field? Specifically, what challenges do you face as a black woman?

Black women, understand that we’ll always need to work twice as hard. If everyone’s at 100%, I’m aiming for 150%. It’s the way of the world we live in, and we’re more than capable to handle everything that comes our way. As a black women working in the media, I truly believe it’s my innate responsibility to put on for my sisters every single day. I’m constantly pushing our stories to the forefront of my coverage because the world needs us. With that being said, I feel a lot of pressure from that duty to push representation forward and tell our stories the right way, since they’ve historically been told the wrong way or not told at all. However, I’m so fortunate to be surrounded by magical black girls in my life who constantly pour into me. That love I receive transcends and touches every aspect of my life—professionally and personally. So, in retrospect every challenge becomes a blessing in disguise.

When trying to build your brand and expand your reach, what components do you find most valuable?

Be genuine. With the rise of social media, everything is becoming oversaturated and clouded by a facade. People are judging your life based on your Instagram page, which is nothing but a highlight reel and not real life. In order to move and maneuver in these waters, showcase authenticity. When your purpose goes beyond the surface of self-righteous pursuits, everything will fall in line.

When we embark on a journey of building any sort of business or brand, we imagine it going a particular way. How do you deal with inevitable disappointments?

I’m my biggest critic so this is tough. Being a perfectionist is a double-edged sword because not everything is going to go as planned and I’m still learning how to be completely unafraid of failure. When I’m in the midst of disappointment, I hold on tight to the belief that everything that is for me is for me and will not pass me by. I’ve gotten so many NO’s and doors slammed in my face (literally and figuratively) but I’m so grateful that I didn’t let that stop me. People are surprised when I share my disappointments because for some reason it seems like I’ve had the ideal career. There have been times when I’ve felt so low in my career. I’ve nearly lost myself in my work before, which became a vicious and unhealthy cycle. I’ve learned to never lose who I am working to please someone else, no matter the job, position, or title. I had to pick myself back up. Instead of sitting in my thoughts for too long and harboring self-doubt, I step away and remind myself of my why. Being gentle with myself, practicing gratitude, and self-care has saved me.

What inspires you?

Black excellence. I’m so proud of US. I jump at the opportunity to sing our praises, showcase our beauty, and remind everyone of our magic. I truly believe Black women are God’s gift to the earth, so my sisters are my number one source for inspiration.

What Quote do you live by?

It’s impossible for me to pick just one. From the woman I was named after: “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”—Maya Angelou

From Marianne Williamson: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

How do you redefine the B Word/What’s your Boss Word?

Be unapologetic. I know that I have a gift and I’m on a mission to reach the highest, truest, fullest expression of myself.

Any parting words to inspire and help a woman reading this that is inspiring to build her brand, her career, and/or a side hustle?

Know that you’re that girl. You have a superpower and no one can take that away from you. Celebrate your life, your losses, your wins, and your failures, because they’re all a part of your testimony. I don’t look like what I’ve been through because I know my very best is yet to come. This is just the beginning.

If you're not already, go follow this gem @mayaalenaa to catch her glowing up your insta feeds with her latest beauty photos and articles.

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THE GRIND ISN'T ALWAYS GLAMOROUS

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It's been a minute since we had the Conquer Your Year Webinar Part 1 & 2, and I wanted to  check-in and see how my tribe was doing on their goals. I hope you're still using your Conquer Your Year ebook to keep you on track.If you still haven't purchased the Conquer Your Year Ebook, it's not too late. Purchase it here. I promise it will change the way you set and accomplish your goals. 

Since we are 40 days into the new year, now is the time you should be doing a check-in to make sure you are on par for your Q1 goals. 

I know for me personally, January kicked my a**. I hit a lot of goals, but I missed a lot too. Between coming off of the holidays, hosting my first event, planning a second event, on-boarding a new person to help me out with @TheBisForBoss and Super Bowl with 13 clients for my 9-5 (read 9-8), I had a busy month. Unfortunately, I didn't get to dedicate as much time to several of the goals I sought out to do outside of my job.  

However, the beautiful thing about goals, is that you don't have to throw the whole goal away. Sometimes you just need to adjust the timeline.

Last weekend I made a choice, I sat down and did a progress report to recalibrate and see where I hit my goals and where I fell short last month. It was a humbling exercise but very necessary. I was reignited with some of that new year excitement I had just 4 weeks ago to crush my goals. 

Comment below and let me know how you have been doing on your goals? What were your BIG wins in January? What's been challenging these first 40 days into the new year? Accountability? Feeling Uninspired? Time Management? I want to hear from you.

Also, if you have any questions you would like to ask me live, I'm bringing back Tea With My B's and I've revamped it and I am adding in a IG Live element to make it more interactive. Join me each and every Thursday at 8:30pm EST.
 

10 MORNING AFFIRMATIONS TO SLAY THE DAY

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I've been on quite an affirmation kick this month. I think it's partially because of the New Year but also because I've truly had so much going on, that I have had to depend on the power of a healthy mind now more than ever to stay encouraged, focused, and filled with energy.

The other day I shared with you how I reached my goals last year, so this morning, I felt empowered to share with you 10 of my favorite morning mantras to help you slay the day.

Here are the affirmations I use each morning to get up with a sense of gratitude, inner-peace, and serious ambition:

  1. I am so excited about what this day will bring and all the opportunities I am about to create

  2. I will not stress over things I can not control.

  3.  I will begin my day with clarity, confidence, and faith

  4. I feel healthy, sexy, strong, and beautiful in my body

  5.  I get to choose the woman I want to be today

  6.  I feel grounded and centered today

  7. Today I will give love and spread positivity to those around me. I get to make people's lives a little better

  8. I always make the best decisions and I trust my gut because she knows what's up!

  9. I am always guided and I know that what is for me will not pass me

  10. Today I wake up filled with gratitude and light. Today is about to be the best day of my life

I hope you ladies have a powerful day. Please feel free to use these affirmations or even better - create your own!

Your mind is your best asset. Use her wisely ;)

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5 Reasons Oprah Would Make A Great President

Unless you are living under a rock, you saw that last night Oprah declared her bid for Presidency in 2020. Okay, not really...but it sure felt like it. Last night #Oprah2020 trended on Twitter and for good reason. In less than 8 mins, Oprah managed to address uncertain times, condemn tyranny, champion journalism and free speech, and, most powerfully, crusade for justice for women and people of color who are marginalized, silenced, and denied justice. She was political, but universal.

What makes Oprah so damn good? Reese Witherspoon summed it up nicely as she introduced her last night at the Golden Globe Awards: "There's only one person whose name is a verb, an adjective, and a feeling. And that is Oprah."

Here's our five reasons we think Oprah would make a great President.

She's self-made.

Oprah is shaped, but not defined, by an incredibly difficult childhood. Her road to prominence as a network chief, producer, actress and philanthropist began with a rocky childhood that caused her to consider taking her own life. Everyone loves a good rags to riches story, and Oprah's is filled with way more than any one person should have to endure. From growing up poor, being moved around from her grandmothers, to her mothers, to her fathers and back again -- to being raped at nine, and sexually harassed/molested many times thereafter by multiple people, to a miscarriage at 14. A baby that was the product of rape by her Uncle (which she often credits as her second chance). Then of course the and racial and gender discrimination she faced throughout her career, which is really just skimming the surface.

Yet, through all of that, here she stands sixty-three years later, worth over 2.5 billion dollars, with a legitimate empire. 

She's genuine.

Nothing feels more real, than hearing her stories like last night when she recounted the story of "sitting on the linoleum floor of my mother's house in Milwaukee" in 1964 watching Sidney Poitier win the Oscar for best actor. Winfrey goes on to say: "I tried many, many times to explain what a moment like that means to a little girl, a kid watching from the cheap seats as my mom came through the door bone tired from cleaning other people's houses."

In that moment, we ALL are sitting on that floor with Oprah in 1964. Few presidents have felt real. Felt human. How many billionaires make you feel like you're besties? Oprah does that.

And if you're a super fan, like myself. I literally "watched" Oprah get ready for the Globes. Her new Instagram feed is one to die for. All of the B-T-S footage, literally adds to her realness. From watching her get her hair done, to trying on her dress and finally telling her bestie Gayle she needed lotion on her elbows, Oprah is just so real

She's a woman.

I mean obviously Oprah's a woman, but after last year's election -- we all feel it. We all want it. Well, let me not say all -- because 53% of white women voted for Trump, but who is counting? I don't know the age demographics within this set of women, but I'd make an educated guess that the majority of them are not millennial women.  Nevertheless, many women, young and old feel robbed after last year's election. It was like we were so close to making history and society reminded us -- that even if you are the most qualified woman, we still live in a day and age where the last qualified man can beat you out for a job that you spent your whole life preparing for.

It was gut-wrenching. It was a hard pill to swallow. To realized that we still lived in a country where that could happen. But America needed that. We needed that mirror to hold up to us and see all the things that are wrong so that we can to truly seek to change for the better. But wouldn't it make a great "ending" if after that heart-crushing lost in 2016 that we could be rewarded with Auntie "O" in 2020?

She gives a voice to the voiceless.

Most presidents have a way words. It's like the par for the course to be president of the United States. However, not only does Oprah have a way with words...when she speaks, people listen. And she uses her platform to tell the stories of those who never had the chance or may ever have the opportunity to speak their truth. Perhaps it's her decades of experience in media or perhaps that no matter how much money she's worth -- she has a way about her that makes you feel like your best friends. 

Last night, she used her platform to tell the story of RecyTaylor and it literally gave me chills. Recy Taylor's name was trending because Oprah was the first black woman to win this award and during her moment, she chose to use her platform to tell her story instead -- along with the stories of many women who were never allowed the opportunity to do so.

She inspires people to take action.

For decades her words have inspire us to action. On her talk show, in her magazine, on her network, in her movies, plays, you name it --  Oprah has always provided a blueprint. Be better, here's how, and I'll do it with you.

What other reasons do you think Oprah would make a great president? And if you can't get enough like we can, her full speech below.

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